7 QUESTION THAT COULD CHANGE YOUR LIFE

 

When people meet me, they tend to ask two questions:

1. “Wow, you’re much taller than I thought. How tall are you?”
2. “What’s the one piece of advice you’d give me?”

That first one is easy to answer, I’m gigantic. Thank you for noticing. I appreciate that.

The second question, though, is a little harder. I don’t have one magical piece of advice that will forever change your life. (Other than “don’t trust people who voluntarily choose unfrosted Pop-Tarts.”)

In fact, I don’t have much advice at all, just a series of questions you need to ask.

1. What are some things I want to do with my life?

Many people go about this question the wrong way. They ask, “What exactly do I want to do with my life?” That is actually the worst question you can ask, which is why you have to murder it and get it out of the way immediately.

We tend to think that we should be able to quickly and completely figure our lives out—that perhaps there is one purpose custom designed for us that we should be able to discover perfectly after reading a few articles like this.

That’s garbage. As a twentysomething, it’s much better to figure out some broad goals rather than focus on the one life-defining thing you want to do. Your goals will shift as you go along, anyway. When I was 22, I didn’t know one of the things I wanted to do was teach authors how to use social media. Know why? Because social media didn’t exist back then. For all I know, you might do something amazing with
hover boards.

2. Who really knows me?

In a lot of ways, friendships and relationships are easier when you are in high school or college. There’s a natural structure to the whole thing. You’re in school for hours with the same people, doing roughly the same things, in roughly the same way.

If you have a thousand Facebook friends but no one really knows you, you are the worst kind of alone.

But after college, or at some point in your twenties when you move to a different city, get a job or whatever else, something changes. Suddenly, those structures are gone and things get a little fuzzy. For the first time ever, you really need to be deliberate to have meaningful relationships. You have to reach out to friends and be vulnerable.Read more.................